Unrequited love. It is something most people may have experienced in their lives at one point or the other. It is prominently displayed in most Asian dramas, especially Korean ones, which I love to watch. However, when one confesses and makes that proclamation of love to that special someone who then gets rejected, it can be very a very traumatic, embarrassing and hurtful situation. And, depending on how the rejection was done, the feelings mentioned before would be exacerbated tenfold. If the person to whom the confession is made is compassionate, they would turn you down really gently and give an explanation as to why they don’t feel that way, or if they do, why they can’t be in a romantic relationship at the moment. But, if the rejection was brutal, then you would never think about confessing to anyone else ever again.
After getting rejected, you sulk and cry and listen to all the tabanca music there is in the world. (By the way, tabanca is what we say in Trinidad and Tobago to refer to sadness after a break up or after a love rejection. In this case, it means sad, love music). Then you attempt to call the person to try to find out why, why won’t you love meeeeeee?! And then you try to gloss it over by saying that you sent a message or called in error, but we know that wasn’t the case.
Then you get angry, firstly at the person for having rejected you but then you get angry at yourself for being so stupid as to tell them how you felt and now you are miserable and vulnerable and you wonder how you are going to face this person again, especially if it is someone you have to either work with or is a really good friend of yours. The awkwardness that follows for you is painful and it is even worse if you end up seeing them with someone else. You attempt to be normal around the said person but it doesn’t happen. It only makes you more miserable and the only thing that you can do is take a timeout from the person. You need to get your me-time back on, do the things that you love to shake off the rejection that you faced.
Dealing with rejection, any kind of rejection is something that is learnt, it takes a while because getting rejected hurts every aspect and fibre of your being but once you apply a positive approach to it, it doesn’t seem so bad. But, as I mentioned, it takes time because not everyone would be able to do this outright.
It takes a while, well, sometimes, it takes a long while to get over the person and the moment of rejection replays in your head like a broken record. Plus, if you do like someone again, chances are, you are not the one that would be confessing, especially if the rejection faced before was harsh. However, in love, taking that chance is good but only if you prepare for both the good and the ugly because what you get back when you love someone far outweighs the risk.